Patience is the magic wand in online dating
Relationships intended to last not born of a magic wand. They consolidate and develop over time, like good wine, and if we do not have patience, a relationship a priori promising may very well end in a stalemate. Those who hope to find a valid serious romantic relationship through the Internet by chatten met vreemden are advised to follow the follow some tips.
SMS and tweets do not convey the tone or mood of the person. When connected with someone, do nothing else at the same time. No SMS or email to anyone or no answer on a blog. Blackberry or other Smartphone must be disconnected and out of reach. Even if it is unpleasant to you to be neither logged nor available for a few minutes, it is the price to pay to favour the current exchange with your e-contact. If the slightest diversion distracts you, it will invade your electronic relationship of space and obliterate all the energy and attention that you would spend with your partner. At best, it will leave him a bad first impression, which will be charged to you throughout your future relationship.
If the current mode of communication is that text messages, tweets and Face book posts mistakenly one might imagine that we know our e-contact, and even as we get closer to one another. But this impression is false intimacy because SMS and tweets do not convey the tone or mood of the person. You cannot really know someone that spending time with him, sharing common experiences, observing attitudes, facial expressions, and engaging in real exchange of ideas and feelings in the presence of one other.
These are essential, fundamental elements of interpersonal dynamics. Without them, we cannot be sure of this inexplicable chemical harmony between two people who like, or ability to have a mature conversation. Do not push the first meeting on datingsite "live". It is quite possible to exchange the first basic information on the Internet. However, once you feel that your e-contact would be interesting to meet, do not hesitate to investigate these references and arrange a meeting.
When two people drag on e-meetings for months without bothering to see if only once, they may have the false impression that they have established an interpersonal overspel relationship. Or sometimes they are disappointed after the first meeting "live" because their partner does not have the look they imagined the voice they were dreaming or feel vreemdgaan because it does not match the mental image they were made.